“Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in
80's movies? I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna
ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles
waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into
the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80's
movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent
reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life” –Easy A
So,
amazingly enough this sparked a bit of controversy amongst my friends on
Facebook. However, I think it still has merit in today’s society especially after
hearing about books such as Twilight,
Fifty Shades of Grey, Hush, Hush, and that Beautiful Disasters.
I
haven’t read any of the mentioned material above, nor plan to. I’m really not
into vampires or erotica, but what bothers me about these books are the
supposed “heroes”.
From
what I understand, they’re anything but. Edward rips out Bella’s car engine
because she wants to see her friend Jacob.
Um...on
what planet is that okay? That’s psychotic not to mention expensive to replace
said car engine.
From
what I’ve seen in the movies, Bella’s dad is the only rational human-being in
all of Forks.
In
Fifty Shades, Christian controls Anastasia, hits
her, and is basically a jerk to her throughout the entire book. Not to mention
he says some pretty horrible things to her. If a guy ever told me he liked to
have sex with girls who looked like his mother, I would run away and probably
pull out my mace.
I
just want to know what happened to the good guys. What happened to the sweet, good
natured guys like Laurie from Little
Women, (who I have a serious crush on) or Teddy Cutting from The Luxe Series? What happened to the
boys who made you smile like dear Rudy Steiner from The Book Thief?
Girls
don’t need a strong, muscular “badass”. Well, at least I don’t. I think to make
a relationship work you need someone reliable; someone who will be for you no
matter. I also think it’s important to find someone who can make you smile, and
when you’re having a bad day, he can lift your spirits.
I
don’t think I’m asking much in that more YA guys be like that, or even in real
life. I think the sweet, good-natured “good guy” should just get a lot more
credit...and the girl.
Jim Haplert, Champion of the Friend Zone